Heartbeat of a Her

And here she is
Wisdom tells me Im nothing
Love tells me Im everything
Within the two, my life flows...

her journey her love her other voices her and herself

Heartbeat of a Her

Tuesday, June 17, 2008 Friends, let me count thee.

10:23 pm

'My best friend is the one who gifts me my weaknesses and shortcomings.'

(Behaarul Anwaar, vol. 74 p. 282)

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A friend whom is close to me is going through a rough patch. One which is brought to her by the people she called 'FRIENDS'.

About 2 years ago, I asked myself whether there was something wrong with me for I saw the number of people I can call good friends declining. I even thought that probably the problem lies with me. And then a wise soul told me, " Its part of growing up. This is when you learn who are the friends who will be there for you at any time, any day and for any reason."

Yes, I agree. Although it did take some time for me to digest that. Its definitely a blow to us when people whom we trust packs that trust away for things which do not matter or worse, for reasons you may never know.

But at the end of the day, I have realised that eventually those who are your true friends will stick with you through the ups and downs. They will be there to give you support when you need it. Sadly, in truth, friends who are around you only in your moments of happiness, do exist. Essentially, its the shared opinion where that friendship is bigger than those small and petty matters which may arise, matters most. And if others are not able to see that, personally for me, its not worth my time or effort.

Anyway, the world is troubled by many other matters for cat fights to take centre stage.

To this friend in particular, do not mind what others say of you. To me, you are perfect the way you are and hey, I've known you way way longer.. Cheer up!

As for me, being in a deep hole for the past year or so has come with a blessing .I now know who are the people I can rely on and that at the end of the day, they will be there for me, through thick and thin. InsyaAllah.

Before I go, I found this online and find it interesting, so here goes....

WHO SHOULD NOT BE BEFRIENDED
Imam Baqir (a.s.) narrates from his father who said,
"O my son don't befriend five types of people:

(a) Don't befriend a liar. For a liar is like a mirage. He shows the distant as near and the near as distant. He will always deceive you and trouble you.

(b) Don't befriend a transgressor. For he will forsake you for a paltry sum and make your sins appear very alluring to you. He will make you a victim of Allah's chastisement through his petty sins and take you farther away from His obedience and satisfaction. He will make Allah's worship appear as His disobedience, and His disobedience as His worship. He will drag you along with himself in the fire of hell.

(c) Never befriend a miser. For in your time of need and distress, he will withhold his wealth from you, while he is in a position to assist you. (He values his wealth more than anything else. And to that end he is prepared to forsake even his friends)

(d) Do not befriend a fool. For (in his foolishness) he will harm you while he intends to help you. (That is why it is said, 'A shrewd enemy is better than a foolish friend')

(e) Don't befriend the one who breaks relations (with his relatives). For, such a person has been cursed in the Quran in three places. He is engrossed in his own affairs with scant regard for others. (Friendship with such a person will eventually lead the individual towards sins and disobedience of Allah)"